Ok ladies!! I know it’s your wedding day and we all (including me 😛 ) want to be the center of attention on that day. You’re in your beautiful dress, gorgeous makeup, all your friends are here and you’re having fun in your robes getting ready. You’ve planned so much and now the day you’ve always dreamed about is here!! It’s time to celebrate!! The girls are all together with you at the venue, but where are the guys? Are they having fun somewhere? Are they on the property as well? Have you made your groom and his friends feel like they are just as important as you and your girls? Or are they just dreading the whole day because they’ve bee relegated as somewhat of a footnote on your wedding day. I’m not trying to mean or to tell you you’re doing it wrong. On wedding days I tend to see guys that feel like they are just there as an accessory rather than a member of the bridal party, or even the groom who is also getting married that day.
My point is that your groom and his grooms men are experiencing the same types of emotions and anxiety as the girls in many ways. Just think about it, I’m sure you’ve noticed that the Groom and his men tend to get neglected on a wedding day. The focus is almost ALWAYS on the bride. How will she look, what type of dress will she wear, and by proxy the maids get some of that attention as well. Even when it comes to photographers they tend to not care if they didn’t get as many photos of the groomsmen, or that they didn’t get detail shots for the Groom. That’s not ok.
When I meet with my clients I always stress to the couple and the Groom that he is an important part of this process, and I want him to tell me what his wishes are for his wedding day as well. I encourage him to participate and let him know that I plan to make this experience fun for him and his guys as well. Ladies we HAVE to make sure our guys know that we value them being there as well.
When you have a photographer who values their maids and their men it shows. You have photos that show the guy and the fun from that day. For me and my groomsmen I let them know that I know they probably don’t want to take photos but I promise we will be quick and we will have a good time!! Of course I get your normal/traditional poses (and with some of my groomsmen parties that’s easier said than done 🙂 ) but I also strive to get the guys as they truly are. For some photos I encourage them to have fun, use your beer in a shot, pick up the groom, give him a hug, and make each other laugh. It’s more or less the same thing I have the girls do (aside from picking up the bride 😀 ) but letting them have fun and know that they are just as important on this day is everything.
Check out these images I’ve included below!! Show them to your groom and let him know that photography can be a blast! I guarantee you it will make him so excited 🙂